The Sisters of Life came from Brooklyn to the Bronx to share with us some powerful insight on how to meet women in crisis.
When two of the Sisters of Life, one of which was Sister Bethany Madonna who is an internationally renowned Catholic speaker, came to visit, the house was suddenly filled with even more uplifting joy. The godly presence these sisters carried was so contagious it was impossible to walk away from them without a smile or without feeling loved.
The Sisters of Life are a religious community of women dedicated to the protection and enhancement of the sacredness of every human life. Their ministry includes offering support to pregnant women.
We believe every person is valuable and sacred. We believe that every person is good, loved, unique and unrepeatable. We believe that every person’s life has deep meaning, purpose and worth. In fact, we give our lives for that truth.
I'm sure some of you reading this met them last year when they toured through Sydney and know EXACTLY what I'm talking about when I say they resonate God's love!
Theology on Tap at a bar and restaurant central to Sydney universities, May 2019.
So here are just some notes that the sisters shared on what to do when meeting a person in crisis:
The human heart
Think of 2 openings: 1 has love pouring in and the other is pouring out because we are made for relationship. But in this broken world openness to love can leave us in a vulnerable place that could lead to hurt and so people choose to shut their hearts to protect themselves.
When we find ourselves in a crisis it strips us of the barriers of the heart and makes us feel powerless and causes us to question if we are worthy.
When speaking with a woman who is in the midst of a crisis:
*Listen to her and let her talk about what she's experiencing*
COURAGE: Don't get caught up in the crisis. We don't have the answers, we just have to love her and this will shatter the lie that she is alone.
We do not push our hopes and dreams onto her because whatever she decides to do is none of our business. She must remain free.
How to respond:
LEISURE:
Interacting in a relaxed environment amidst free time helps the woman to feel like she is in a safe place where she can freely share.
Receiving her in acceptance of who she is prevents her from having to prove herself.
Show that you enjoy her company so that you reflect the goodness that she may not see in herself.
LISTEN:
Truly being listened to can free someone.
As they trust, due to your listening, they can hear themselves and begin to realise things in new ways.
Barriers to avoid:
Advising
Adding your own story
Asking questions right away
Interrupting
After abortion:
Shame is a lie. Shame tells us that God doesn't love us.
Fears in abortion can be very overwhelming.
Apologise for her suffering and acknowledge her suffering.
Be very gentle, sensitive and encouraging. We are called to be the Father's face of mercy.
Have the courage to love and ask for the ability to listen. Each of us in crisis can say yes to an invitation to a deeper love and to live more deeply.